I’ve watched a couple of TV shows lately where there’s someone being threatened and they say “But I have a family!” as a reason to not get shot. (They’re not horribly violent shows, just happened to both have this type of scene.)
I don’t think it’s that uncommon of a sentiment. Not just when someone’s pointing a gun at you but also at work. Someone might beg off a responsibility because they have a family. I’ve heard that and I’ve also heard people saying they shouldn’t be laid off because “I have a family.”
So, as a single 35-year old woman, how am I supposed to take this? It seems that I’m worth less because I don’t have a family. The worst part is that I already thought that about myself. I am fighting this uphill battle to believe I am worthwhile even if someone hasn’t chosen me to marry and even if I don’t have children, and everything around me is reinforcing that I’m not. Even stupid TV shows are reinforcing that for me. American Christian culture is telling me the same thing. Sometimes it feels like too much to fight and I just want to give up and admit I’m not good enough, I’m a failure, and I’m unlovable. Because if those things weren’t true, someone would have chosen me by now.